So there’s how we start our days and then maybe there’s difference in how we know we could best start our days. So, I’m a human, like all of us, and there are some days that I start my day well, and there are other days that I start my day doing something that doesn’t contribute to my being as fully capable as I could be.
So, fill in the blank, right? That could be getting up late, it could be turning to social media, or who knows what on my phone in the morning. It could be maybe not spending some time being inspired in whatever way that looks like. It could be what we put in our bodies. It could be what else we’re feeding our heads.
I mean, you know, the list is endless, right? So I just want us to think about how we start our days and then how we could best start our days and see if we can add one more day every week. In the best start of our days category because there’s a mental space that I want to share many, many of you know this, but I think it’s so valuable and so appropriate as we’re ending our time here together and it’s called the gap in the game by Dan Sullivan.
So, let me see who does know about the gap in the game by Dan Sullivan. Awesome. So I don’t have to explain this thought. No, you’ve heard of this certainly. The Gap in the Game by Dan Sullivan. Probably, it just doesn’t ring a bell. Yeah, the title didn’t ring a bell. So I’ll just remind us all about it.
There is a book by Dan and Ben Hardy that I recommend called The Gap in the Game. And it’s a mental construct that he shares, which is there’s an ideal in all areas of our life. There’s an ideal of how we want to look physically. There’s an ideal of how we want to start our days. There’s an ideal of how we want to work with the truth concepts calculators.
And it’s out there and you can think about it like the horizon, right? The horizon is out there and it doesn’t really matter how fast we walk. The horizon is already out there and it’s always. Out there, the ideal is also always out there. And I remember when I first heard this, I resisted it big time.
What do you mean I can’t get to the ideal? I absolutely can get to the ideal. That’s what I strive for in every area of my life. I can get to the ideal. But what happens when we get to the ideal? Another ideal. The chips. Yup. Yup. And it shifts again and it shifts again and it shifts again. And so, if we are conscious of the ideal that’s fabulous, it’s hugely inspirational to us.
Ideal is inspirational, yet we don’t want to be measuring by the ideal. So it looks like this. It’s it’s ideals out there and it’s truth concepts. I was just talking with mark about this this morning. We’re not having this conversation because of it, but you reminded me of it. I was thinking about it already this morning.
So helpful on the third day. And we have this idea about how we want to be with the calculators, right? And we’re constantly measuring ourselves between where we are today and where we want to be with the calculators. How do we feel when we are measuring ourselves between where we are and where we want to be?
How do we feel? Not good, right? Bad? Depressed? Frustrated? Incapable? Lack of confidence? When we’re feeling that way, how good are we in front of our next person? The kid that we need to feed breakfast to, the spouse that we want to interact with, prospect or client we want to help. How good are we with them when we feel bad, negative, income, you know, whatever all those words are.
We’re not good in front of that person. We’re not good in front of ourselves, in front of the mirror either. So if instead we will measure ourselves from where we came now, I’m a very, very future based person. It’s very difficult for me to look in the past. I mean, this is a Dan’s old quote as well. My definition of research is making it up to look in the past at all. I’m not interested in it. But I have learned that when it comes to measuring, I’ve got to just for a second turn, just for a moment, turn and look at the progress that I’ve made. How are we when we’re thinking about the progress that I’ve, that we’ve made? How are we feeling?
Powerful, good, happy, capable, confident, willing, open minded, gracious. So if just for a second, as often as you need, if you’ll look at the progress that you’ve made and measure from the progress, measure from back there to where you are today. Then you’ll make more progress. And then you measure again. Look at the ideal.
Great for inspiration. Then look at the progress that you’ve made. And the next day. And the next day. Always, always measuring based on that past progress that you’ve made. Right up to the minute sometimes. Then you’ll walk into whatever it is that you’re dealing with. With a literal physical countenance, of grace and capability and trustworthiness and truth and positivity. And we know we get so much better results with that. So can we all commit to measuring our progress? We will do so much better with the calculators and with helping our people and our families and everything else when we are measuring progress.
Use the ideal for inspiration, but just understand that it’s always moving. So the quote that I have for you today scribbled on the board is grace and truth are potent beyond all other means and methods. And this did not come from me. Jason was kind enough yesterday to ask if joy can be an act of defiance was Kim Butler and yes, but this is from Mary Baker.
Grace and truth are potent beyond all other means and methods.